INTRODUCTIONWHY THIS GUIDE?
This guide is especially for those of you who aren't into "flash mobs" or over the top (and we think a little corny) gestures like renting a blimp and flying it over the baseball game with a "will you marry me Jessica?" banner. No. This guide is for a "normal", don't-post-it-to-YouTube but memorable engagement. Classy, special, romantic.
Before digging in, remember: your bride to be is going to be most impressed by how you personalize your proposal. We obviously don't have a window into the little quirks that make your relationship special, so take these ideas as starting points!
PLAN AROUND YOURBRIDE TO BE'S PERSONALITY
Here are some of the main personality types to consider and some basic do's and don'ts.
Plan something private. She's not going to want a crowd of people around. Preferable choose a place that is quiet and intimate. If you want pictures, do it like this guy and hire a hidden photographer! Since this proposal might be just the two of you, if your girlfriend is also a game lover she might like this word game proposal idea. Very clever.
If your bride to be is outdoorsy, that could mean a lot of things. Is she a hiker? Does she simply like to be out in nature? Or likes bird watching? You don't want to confuse these interests. Narrow down outdoorsy to something very specific. For example, Doris chose a waterfall that reminded his fiance of their first trip.
Sporty doesn't mean you have to propose in front of thousands of screaming fans. Remember, we're giving ideas that don't involve over the top events. You can go towards a sports themed proposal like this super creative baseball themed proposal. He even had custom baseball cards made!
If your bride is a geek you may want to incorporate some technology into your proposal. For example, you could make a special website with photos, videos, memories - and of course ask the question. This article on The Knot has some more great ideas for a tech. proposal (numbers 16-21).
If your girl is fashionable, you definitely want to be dressed up and out on a very special occasion. No rock climbing proposals for you. Make sure you get photos!
If your girlfriend is artistic she's probably going to want something creative and unique. So you may want to lean more on that side than overly romantic. Something thoughtful and personal may mean a whole lot more to her than glamour. For example, Ben hired some freelance writers and made this storybook to ask the big question. What a gesture!
So your bride to be as a party girl, but you still might want to maintain a sense of intimacy when you propose. A good way to think of "party girl" is simply social. She probably likes to be around other people. You probably don't want to propose at a party, but what you could do is propose first while alone. Then surprise her with a party of friends or family afterwards, where you can then all celebrate together. For example, proposing at a restaurant, and then revealing friends and family in a private room. You could also do it someplace you can get on stage with a microphone and do it in front of an entire audience.
If you are still unsure of the best gesture, pick up a copy of The Love Languages. You'll learn about how your girl best feels loved. Definitely work that into the proposal!
Valentines Day Proposal
Huffington Post has some really nice ideas.
Christmas Eve Proposal
Some ideas here.
New Year's Eve Proposal
The do's and don'ts of a New Year's engagement.
Obviously not for everyone, but this holiday can lend itself to a fun time! Some ideas here.
Propose On Her Birthday
This is kind of like a Holiday, right? :) Here's a useful guide on the perfect birthday proposal.
UNCOMMON PLACESTO RESEARCH MORE PROPOSAL IDEAS
THE KNOT FORUMS
There's a nice community here!
Yahoo Answers actually has an active and helpful community in their Weddings section.
For those of you who are not familiar, Quora is the well known question and answer site. Answers can be voted on, and generally everyone is really helpful and civil. Here's their marriage proposal topic.
CHECKLISTFOR THE BIG DAY
This may depend on your location and setting too. But if you have the opportunity to bring along a little extra music for ambiance, definitely don't forget it!
Apple has a lot of wireless speakers that work with iPods and iPhones.
You may have a special song together - if so that would be the ideal music to play. If not, I suggest you spy on her music collection for ideas.
Still at a loss? Not music buffs? Here are 50 of the best love songs to get you started.
FOOD & DRINK
If you're proposal at a restaurant, this isn't a concern. But what about that beach or picnic proposal? Remember to pack these essentials;
Wine - you might know your girlfriend's wine preference, but if not here's a great wine guide to help you decide.
Gourmet Horderves - here's a helpful Pinterest board with some easy ideas.
Food - this obviously may depend on where you propose. Here 25 romantic picnic food ideas!
The extras - don't forget wine glasses, a cooler, napkins, cutlery. You may just want to pick up a picnic set like this affordable one from Baxter.
PHOTOS & VIDEO
As mentioned above, you can consider hiring a photographer to be there to capture the special moment. They could be hidden to not give it away!
You may want to consider having someone there to catch a video. This could be easier of course if you're including friends or family who can do this for you, but just don't forget it! By the way, here's how you can make a secret video with your iPhone.
Of course! The most important part. You may already have a ring chosen if you are this far into the process. If not, Diamond Mansion has an extensive guide for everything you need to know about Diamonds. You may always contact us directly too - we are here to help with any ring questions you might have.
GOOD LUCK!TO YOU
Please drop us a comment if you have any proposal tips, or if you have already proposed
- let us know how it went!